Few times, we were asked by the Tan-Vijayans, why am I going to church?
Am I a born Christian?
The answer for the kids – Yes.
Do I have a choice to choose? The answer, again, yes.
Are we too liberal as parents? Hmm, depends.
We are not liberal with Tan-Vijayans on the following, where no arguments would ever be entertained:-
- Smoking, strongly prohibited. When they reached 18 and decided to do it, then, the health risk is theirs, solely
- Usage of computer, smart devices. If these things caused them to stay away from learning, contributing to assisting the families in any way, prohibited. Period.
- 10 commandments. No compromise.
- Reject knowledge. Yep. Strongly prohibited in this family. In regardless of age, knowledge level, no one stops learning in this family.
- Learning, socialising. Highly encouraged. Some of you would noticed by now often I bring the Tan-Vijayans along with us or me to many of the meetings, be it work or casual. Ok, for work, there is limit, serious business, nope.
Coming back to the question posted by the Tan-Vijayans, again, why am I following you to church? Why can’t I attend a Buddhist temple ceremony, or Hindu ceremony?
Let’s examine the scripture.
Psalms 127:3-5 Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
We should never be ashamed to talk about our kids. They are from the Lord, God. It is our duty to show the children the right way. Whether he or she choose to walk the same path or not in the future, it is between them and the Almighty.
Deuteronomy 6:6-9 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
Retna and I chose to believe one living God – Jesus. And we obey His command in Deuteronomy that we will teach the Tan-Vijayans diligently.
In fact we talk to them daily a lot, unless when we are away. We have conversation during dinner, lunch and even when we are driving in the car. There will be a lot to talk about. Love, sex, politics, companies, making money, being ethical etc.
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Recently our twins told me that they will follow us to go to the main sanctuary during the church service instead of attending the youth service. Same goes to the daughter as well. She has been telling us she prefers to worship with her parents.
We did some digging and own findings about what they have told us.
It’s true. The Tan-Vijayans come to church to worship God as well as to learn the message God will be passing on to everyone as a congregation.
My observation, there is a gap between the children service, youth and adults services at most churches.
A gap which if we do not fill them, could be a possible problem in the future.
I attended the youth services with the twins for a few times. The leader dressed like a hipster. Talk and live like one too. The dress code is about being cool and being able to stand out, being yourself blah blah blah.
I looked around the youth in the service. A lot of screaming when it comes to people they love. Dress code wise, yep, more hipster like overall.
The message, not much of a message. Who cares much of the message. It is about the music. Music you can relate to. Something which sounds Indie Rock Gospel kind. I love Indie music. Especially the rock and American Folks.
Maybe we are weirdos. I could not be absorbed into this well. Neither the Tan-Vijayans.
I like attending a service I could learn, especially from people who are smarter than us.
Well, that is my take. Whether you are a part of the group or not, just ensure you are on the Light side.