• Doing homework, doing it right

    School holiday is over, and kids back to school. Many parents (like us) will be or already busy with helping the kids with home work or school work. Most of the time, Inez would do her home work by herself (Sri Lanka and Chinese genes are strong). This evening, she handed me some books to run through to check if she would be able to answer the questions on the home work correctly.  So I went through the books.  I realised, home work is actually a really good time for parent and kids to get together.  Like spending quality time together. What I think would work really well for ‘New…

  • Avoid playing bad cop among kids

    The risks associated with growing up in an online world are not only giving parents a headache, but the time their children are spending online is a real cause for concern. As a result, a third of parents curb the amount of time their children spend on the Internet, to protect them from online dangers. But there are other steps parents can take to minimise the risks and help their children make the most of all the positive things that the digital world can offer.

  • What we do when we are having meals with kids

    Recently I observed (not that I did not in the past), often when family is having a meal together, no one is on the table with each other, but on the phones, without someone, something else. Few months back we went to an Italian restaurant for dinner, the place was fully booked.  So can expect over capacity.  When we were there, I noticed most families and couples were not talking to each other, but spending time on the phones.  I could spy, Instagram, WeChat, WhatsApp etc. Since that time, our twins did not have a phone (yes, we recently added the phones into their lives), so they were busy talking…

  • Pray for Prey

    Coming from a parent. I love our kids, although some time I am tempted to put them up for adoption. I seldom allow our kids to go to the public toilet alone.  Even for our twins sons.  I don’t. I noticed elderly love to touch our twins, I especially pay attention when it is the male elderly.  They love to touch them and groped their bodies.  I generally will stop the elderly from going on politely, by pulling our twins back.  Later we will talk to the twins about possible sexual harassment which they may had encountered. As parents, we need to be honest and transparent about everything, including the…

  • Planning your off springs future, better don’t do it yourself, alone

    What I love about Kuen Cheng High School, the school updates parents what’s going on with the children as well as what parents could learn a thing or two together, with some help. So, Saturday was one of the many things the school does for the students and the parents.  This time, to plan the off spring future.  The session is done by Mr. Tan, the regular speaker for radio station, seminars, workshops.  He is also the head of counselling of the school.  A really nice teacher to talk and work with. The take home messages below:- Don’t spoil your kids with unlimited supply of education funds Don’t let your…

  • Control Your Kids, Before Your Kids Control You

    I was in Bali last month, visited a Monkey Forest which is a sacred place for Balinese to worship the monkey god.  I noticed many visitors (excludes me and some others) love to have the monkeys to climb on their back, then ultimately to reach their shoulders and heads, where the monkeys will sit there.  What do you get doing that?  Some photo opportunity. It is beyond comprehension.  I seriously wonder why.  Just like Donald Trump, the elected president.  Well, people being people.  We can not read their minds.

  • Learning Living Skills

    I was talking to our twins about the content of the Living Skill class they have in their study syllabus, aka Kemahiran Hidup. The session is good and I think the syllabus should include the following:- Basic house cleaning.  This is an important skill which I think most teens now are not aware how to perform such duties or house chores, as they are generally assisted by their parents, grandparents, or worst of all – maids.  I could see how our neighbours grown up teens and some adults unable to do such house chores while they remain living with their parents. Food preparation.  I think including myself is to be…

  • How maids will destroy the Malaysian household

    I seriously think many parents destroy the household by having living maid(s).  Why the plural?  For some families, one is never enough. Do you seriously think the kids need so much time to study and have no time to clean the house, together with the parents?  Or take up the responsibilities since the parents are working?